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Looking forward - Joyfully - A Review

It's been a while since I did a review so when I saw my mailbox this morning I was over "Joyed".

The only real negative I had about this deck was that the book was not in color. The cards are so beautiful, I found the pages a little drab. But that's really all! the rest of the book was full of useful information and data driven fact based information on each one of the cards. It was really a "joy" to read. 




If you’re looking for a tool that gently shifts your day from just surviving to finding delight, the Joy Cards deck delivers. At its heart, it’s elegant in its simplicity: forty-eight richly illustrated activity cards grounded in positive-psychology science, paired with a guidebook designed to spark what the authors call “joy gems” — those small, luminous moments that remind us stress and distraction don’t have to run the show.

From the first card pull, I appreciated how this deck makes the idea of joy feel accessible rather than fluffy. Each card pairs Lilamani de Silva’s radiant artwork with a simple action: stretch in the morning light, offer a genuine compliment, pause and notice the smell of your coffee. Others nudge you to move your body, reconnect to nature, or finally journal about what you’ve been avoiding. The guidebook explains how each practice is crafted to boost serotonin, dopamine, and endorphins — so you’re not chasing temporary happiness; you’re training your brain for long-term resilience.


Four Cards That Stood Out to Me

Be a Kid Again



This card was pure nostalgia wrapped in permission. When I pulled it, I stopped trying to be so productive for one afternoon and just played. I went outside, felt the grass under my feet, and let myself laugh without reason. It reminded me that joy doesn’t always have to be earned — sometimes it’s as simple as letting your inner child breathe for a while. We forget how healing it is to be silly, curious, and free, even for ten minutes.

Redesign Your Space

Pulling this card felt like permission to reclaim my environment. I spent an afternoon clearing clutter, rearranging my desk, and lighting one of my handmade candles. The shift was instant — my workspace felt like a sanctuary again instead of a staging area for chaos. Joy doesn’t always come from grand gestures; sometimes it’s a clear surface and a scent that feels like home.

Pay It Forward

This card resonated deeply. Its call to share your joy made me think of the Blessing Box of Goldsboro, where neighbors leave food and essentials for anyone in need. That afternoon, I filled a box with fresh fruits and veggies, along with gloves, hats, and other items to help someone through their day. There’s something profoundly grounding about giving back quietly — letting generosity become part of the rhythm of your life.

Celebrate You

This one stopped me cold because it’s so easy to celebrate others and forget ourselves. When Celebrate You appeared, I brewed coffee, sat quietly, and wrote down the ways I’d shown up for myself lately — surviving, creating, healing, growing. It wasn’t about ego; it was about acknowledgment. Joy blooms when you take a moment to honor the version of you that keeps showing up, even when no one’s watching.


How to Use This Deck

  • Morning draws: Set a tone of joy before the day unravels.

  • Midday resets: When overwhelm creeps in, pull one to pivot your energy.

  • Weekend connections : Use with clients, circles, or meditation groups to turn simple acts into meaningful moment.

The Joy Cards stand out because they don’t demand belief in something mystical or complicated — just an invitation to notice, move, pause, and connect. They bridge the worlds of ritual and real life beautifully, making them an ideal companion for anyone seeking calm amid the everyday chaos.

I wholeheartedly recommend Joy Cards for anyone wanting to infuse daily life with more intention and ease. Whether you’re navigating transition, rebuilding after burnout, or simply craving more light among the shadows, this deck offers a grounded and playful way in.

Pull one card each morning, and you’re not just manifesting change — you’re designing it.

If you’d like to support my ongoing work with the Blessing Box of Goldsboro, you can do so by purchasing directly through my website, ByHerFires.com. Every order helps me continue stocking the boxes with fresh food, warm clothing, and kindness at the crossroads.




Beyond the Labels: My Journey to Neurodivergence - 1

 For years, I carried words that didn’t quite belong to me. Bipolar. Borderline. They were the labels handed down by professionals who tried to explain why my moods seemed to rise and crash, why my energy came in tidal waves, and why I felt things so deeply. I lived under those diagnoses, trying to reconcile myself to them, but deep inside, they never fully fit.

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When I look back at my old blog, Confessions of a Modern Witch, I see the evidence of my struggle written in real time.


In Embrace the Sparkle #7, I wrote about memory slips and forgetfulness:

“Over the last year or so I have started to notice that I just can’t remember things like I used to. I forget what I’m going to the store for… when I’m feeling a bit more manic than usual.”

At the time, I thought this was part of mania. Now I understand it as classic executive functioning struggles — very common in ADHD and autism.



In The Bipolar Mind – A Different Way of Thinking, I admitted my need for constant stimulation:

“I need to keep my mind busy. I needed projects and notepads and more more more … but society told me this was wrong.”

What I once labeled dangerous restlessness, I now see as hyperfocus and divergent thinking. My brain thrives on multiple projects. That isn’t a flaw — it’s a feature.



In Bipolar Awareness — Embrace the Sparkle 2, I described long nights of rumination:

“Last night I woke at 1:30 am … mind racing until after 4:00 am … reviewing the events of the day … what did I do wrong … what did I do right … should I do something different…”


That wasn’t mania. That was my neurodivergent brain stuck in a loop — autistic processing that doesn’t shut off when the body is begging for rest.



And in Being Bipolar isn’t the End of the World, I shared how my husband helped me manage:

“He takes me for walks … to help me center, or even sometimes take me to the loudest place … to help my mind devour all the chaos it can.”

What we thought was about calming mania was actually about sensory regulation — walking, grounding, and using external stimulation to give my brain somewhere safe to settle.

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Slowly, the truth emerged. The labels never explained the whole picture, but discovering ADHD, AuADHD, and dyslexia reframed everything. I wasn’t broken. My brain was simply wired differently. What I had been taught to view as symptoms of an “illness” were survival strategies, sensitivities, and ways of thinking that don’t always fit a neurotypical world.


Reframing my past has been liberating. What I once saw as shameful or destructive now looks like part of my natural wiring. Instead of asking, “How do I fix this?” I began asking, “How do I honor this?”

That shift changed everything. It allowed me to build systems, embrace creativity, and treat myself with compassion. It also made me realize how many others may be carrying labels that don’t fit.


Through this site, I bring this truth into my work. My oracle decks, classes, and sound healing are not polished despite my neurodivergence — they are born from it. Hecate, goddess of thresholds, has guided me through this crossing: from misdiagnosis to clarity, from shame to understanding.


I share this because I know I’m not alone. If you’ve been told you are too much, too sensitive, too scattered — know this: you are not broken.


Every purchase from By Her Fires supports not only this work but also my monthly donations to the Blessing Box of Goldsboro, filling local boxes with food and care items for neighbors in need. Together, we honor compassion in both ritual and action. Check out my shop and help support my mission.



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